There is no sense to be made of a woman stabbing two children before slashing her own throat. We cannot rationalize such a senseless act. We cannot rationalize any of the senseless acts that take place day after day after day. Sometimes, people snap. They break open and commit unspeakable acts. We will never know why Yoselyn Ortega broke open.
I think about the parents of those two children. They must be so tormented. I wonder if there will ever be peace for them as they try to sift through every moment leading up to Friday’s events, as they try to figure out what they missed. How will they ever trust that they can let their surviving child out of their sights? Their grief must be staggering.
Every parent who leaves their children in the care of others, and that is most parents, is now going to question themselves and their choices and the people they entrust their children to. How could they not?
I shouldn’t be surprised by the way people react to tragedy online but the reaction to what happened to the Krim family has reminded me that people become gleeful when they can judge the choices of others. Now everyone has opinions on wealth, child-raising, what a good parent does or does not do, and it’s bullshit. It’s tacky. Having children is a choice but the world does not come to a screeching halt. Parents are allowed to be people. They are allowed to work outside of the home or not. If they stay home, they can have a nanny or three. It’s not your business, really. All this smugness, I can’t even wrap my mind around it. I’ve had to stop reading comments about what happened because all I can think is, “Where do you get off?”
Every family makes the best choices they can. They do the best they can to be individuals, to be parents, to make it all work. What happened to two children on Friday has nothing to do with bad choices. A woman snapped and did something terrible. Two children are dead. Two parents are devastated. A woman is in the hospital. That’s all we really know. Maybe that’s what people are struggling with, that we will never know why this happened. We will never know if something like this might happen to us. We will never know who we can trust. So much in this world is absolutely senseless.